Monday, December 31, 2012

Final Reflections (For 2012)

It is that time of the year when we all reflect on the year that has been and try and put together what we are looking forward to in the new year. In as much as I'd like to avoid this, I discover that I am no different from the rest of ordinary folk and my mind inadvertently gets drawn to this exercise.

My first instinct was to think that this has not been a very good year for me, because it really has not. It has been full of a lot of frustrations. But then when I think about it, I realize that there are actually lots of small moments of joy. Sometimes we tend to look at only the big things and base our successes and failures on this, and then we miss the lots of small beautiful moments, which when placed together, overshadow the unhappy dark moments.

For example I think that I ought to be thankful for just being alive. This year I lost my grandma early in the year, and my first cousin mid this month -- so I recall their bodies lying in their coffins and think that I should be happy just being alive! I also thought that I had experienced a bad year professionally, especially at my former place of work. Since I started working some 11 or so years ago, this year had been the most challenging, and the one without joy. But then I think I was able to transition so quickly to another workplace  when I made up my mind to move on - a luxury that very few can afford to have. Yes, I had to take a pay cut but how many people actually earn a living from work? Many are without jobs or livelihood. And I also remember that any depressing moment in the office is quickly forgotten when I get home to be with my daughters...and their mother of course! Thinking about their mother, I know of a number of my friends who have had serious problems with their relationships, some have even separated this year. So I am glad that "me and my wife" are still going strong!

Ok, I will not dwell on the struggling business or debts that threatened to go out of control but looking forward to 2013, there are very few things that I would wish for:

That I continue with my current mantra "Just Do It! It is easier to get forgiveness than permission" - this has served me quite well in keeping me moving forward.

That I actually make time to get back to reading -- and reading all your blogs that I enjoyed reading in 2011 and the first part of 2012 before I fell off the blogosphere

That I look happier than I looked this year!

Ok, there -- I have done my part in reviewing the year and sharing resolutions!


  1. Happy New Year to you Charles!

    It's a good exercise I think to look back and reflect on the year behind and think about a few things we would like to do in the coming year. Like you I initially thought my past year was a poor one but I am grateful to be alive and to have a few simple joys. God is good to us in so many ways we can often take for granted.

    I'm happy to hear you moved on from a bad situation in work and that you are happy in your current work. Indeed in these troubled times, it is truly a blessing to have a job and be able to provide for oneself and one's family. Loss of loved ones can be so difficult. The passage of a long period of time can help to ease the pain. I pray that you will be left with nothing but good memories for those loved and lost.

    I wish you and your family nothing but the best in 2013!

  2. Happy New Year and may 2013 be your "Just Do It" year.

    I have a friend who texted last night ... blabbering about New Years Eve 1976 and 1977!! Life can't be so bad that you have to go all that way back to remember something good I felt like texting back!

    For the first time in weeks it isn't raining out there and I can run without putting my rainy day running hat ... such a positive start!

    1. I was just 2 years in 1976! Must have been quite something if they can still recall it! Happy new year to you too and all the best with your running!

  3. Happy New Year to you and your family Otieno and also to all your readers. @joyful puts it perfectly reminding us that God is gracious to us in so many ways that we cannot even remember. Let us give thanks and pray that 2013 will be good - especially for those who have suffered the pain of losing loved ones or the hardship amd misery caused by war and natural calamities. We remember too those going through the scrouge of unemployment or battling with a serious illness. May 2013 be your year.....

  4. I know business is tough, in Kenya it is said 2 of every 3 businesses fail in the first three years... I hope now things are looking up though?

    1. He he, my business has not failed yet

  5. Hello Charles it has been a very long time, almost a year since you've posted on your blog. I don't know if you still check in here from time to time but I just wanted to send you and your family my very best wishes for a wonderful Christmas. Kenya has been through some challenging times. May better days be right around the corner in 2014. God bless.